If the parties aren’t sure about these issues choose a better way.  Jan can suggest to the filing party that the couple meet with  a very competent and qualified mediator who will work with them together to address the issues with the goal of maximizing the outcome while minimizing the costs.  Often the process from filing to the final hearing can be accomplished by the end of the required waiting period for less than the $5,000.00 retainer often required by many local family law attorneys.  The parties can save thousands by eliminating the need for formal discovery and shuttle mediation where they share the cost of paying three professionals (two attorneys and a mediator) for a prolonged mediation session.  The parties and their attorneys are in separate rooms and the mediator shuttles back and forth,  often telling the parties what the Judge will do if they don’t reach agreement.  The ability is lost  for the parties to work together to learn to relate in a different way so they can successfully parent their children after the divorce while planning for the future of the whole family.  While many parties may believe such a process will not work in their case, they are willing to expend comparative little time and money to try working with a neutral party, with the knowledge that the process may help them avoid continued conflict which is so costly and detrimental to their children. 

Should post divorce issues arise the parties can return to mediation to problem solve without the cost of litigation.  An Agreed Order resolving parenting issues and/or child support can then be submitted to the Court for approval by the attorney. Choose a better way!

Barring serious mental health issues, serious domestic violence or child abuse, this process can work for any couple, regardless of their economic circumstances.  Even in these situations agreements can be reached in a safe environment to avoid a public court hearing.  

The goal is for an equitable division of the assets and debts and a parenting plan in the best interest of the children providing for their care and support.  That is what our law requires and the decisions, based upon the law, that the Judge will make should the case go to trial.